How do I deal with this without making him feel as though I think less of him? How do I help??? Also a few weeks ago he called and had me listen to Chaka Kahn’s ‘Sweet Thing’ which I thought was really sweet so it’s almost like getting mix signals from him. I think that the more I help him, the more attention he’ll give me. You don’t need to talk about it, you don’t need to help with it, you don’t need to reassure him… you don’t need to do anything. Our society as a whole is so shallow and superficial….GOD HELP US. For women it is lost of love/relationships. It was up to me to take the actions necessary to bring consciousness to my own situation and resolve the fundamental problem. Server responsed at: 12/25/2020 10:40 p.m. So I thought he was not interested in me. . Sometimes I’ll ask if he could go out with me and we’ll use the certificates. If you’re dating and want to know when debt should be a deal breaker, here are four signs. There are tons of guys out there who have complexes about their jobs and the amount of money they make and what it “means” about them. . The now-ex-boyfriend can feel it. I haven’t been contacting him since the break up i just left it as is but i promise you it’s eating away at me. I just want a nice life for my future family and I am starting to resent the fact that it seems he hasn’t been saving or sacrificing like I have to start a family. I get a lot of coupons and gift certificates at work, for restaurants and movies (which is good because it saves money). We are not exclusive, so if I want I could see other people. I’m a perfectionist, so the feeling of not measuring up to my own standards is unbearable to me. I have to add to my original question. There’s little worse than dating a girl who’s broke. His checking account is constantly overdrawn, his five-figure credit card debt is accruing interest at an alarming rate, and his retirement account is a whopping zero dollars. While you don't have to agree fully on how you both spend your money, if you have completely opposite views on money, this can lead to a number of relationship problems. He’ll ultimately need to work this out himself anyway, so anything you do that supports that is helpful and anything you do that interferes with that is unhelpful. Spending money he doesn't necessarily have can be because of a number of reasons. Hi Eric, I’m facing a similar situation too. He wants me to leave him due to his financial problems and told me that he is not a good guy for me. Maybe you saw a recent pay stub where he is making more money than he admits to making or caught him withdrawing money from your account, which are all red flags in any relationship. I decided to rid the car and got some of he money back. I have a degree in Psychology and I've dedicated the last 20 years of my life to learning everything I can about human psychology and sharing what gets people out of struggling with life and into having the life they really want. The solution to dating app burnout isn’t necessarily to get off them entirely (though, of course, that’s always an option): What Pomeranz advises instead is to restrict the amount of time spent on online dating apps. One thing I would disagree with is the don’t look back comment. If you both come from a family where saving was part of the expectation, then perhaps you can help get them back on course.” ― Linda Lubitz Boone, certified financial planner and president of the Lubitz Financial Group is there a way to salvage this relationship? We list for you some of the common and not-so-obvious financial red flags—actions, habits and behaviour patterns—that can hint at bigger problems you may or may not be able to rectify in the future. 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